The Gonzalez Family ∙ "Go with the flow!"

The Gonzalez Family ∙ "Go with the flow!"

BirdRock Baby- Sally Gonzalez

The Gonzalez Family

Bonita, CA

What is your favorite family tradition?

I would say that our favorite family tradition is traveling with the kids. We've taken them to NYC, Yellowstone, Mexico, Oregon, Hawaii, Alaska and Texas. As they get older, we venture further and cant wait to take them overseas very soon. They are pro flyers, love cruises and actually do pretty good on road trips as well. Traveling as a family has its challenges but we love to expose our little ones to the world and show them all the great places to explore.

Tell us about your favorite family story.

I don't know if I have a particular story but rather moments that fill my heart with love. Every time we go somewhere new or experience something new, the reaction of the kids is so amazing. To see them experience something for the first time see their genuine joy brings tears to my eyes every time. Whether it's a trip to Disneyland, a new city or even when we got our new puppy, their excitement really sparks tears of joy.

What is your family's motto?

Go with the flow!

Share Your Parenting Wisdom

BirdRock Baby- Sally Gonzalez

What's your number one tip for new parents?

My number 1 tip and also our family motto is, "GO WITH THE FLOW"! Its ok to set expectations but when things aren't going as expected it's ok to change course. I always tell new moms, you just have to learn to bob and weave. I had such high expectations for myself and my birth pan when pregnant with our son. After 3 days of labor I ended up being rushed into a c-section and I learned in that moment that no amount of preparation and planning is going to make anything perfect.

In the end we had a healthy baby boy and since then I have tried to let things go that don't go as planned. Just continue bobbing and weaving and be happy with how things are and not upset that they aren't how you planned or what you expected.

What has been the most surprising thing you've learned as a parent?

Honestly, how fast it goes! I know everyone says it goes in the blink of an eye, but until you are living that blink you don't believe it. Our son is 8 and our daughter is 6 and I just can't believe how fast its going.I love every minute of it and love watching them grow but somedays I feel like we were just in diapers and nap schedules last week.

Now we are managing homework and school schedules. It has really taught me to make sure to do the things we want to do as a family now, and not wait till we have enough time or money or help, etc. It will all go so fast so I try to make sure we live each day and not wait.

Tell us about your funniest parenting story (we all have them!)

This kind of goes along with the just go with the flow and letting go of high expectations theme...the first time we took the kids to Disneyland, Eli was 3 and Evie was 16 months. Eli started to have a complete and total melt down tantrum because he wanted a lollipop from the candy store and he rarely acted like this.

I was trying to be the strong mom that doesn't buy their kid everything they want and I didn't want to reward bad behavior. I mean he really went all out with his tantrum, screaming and crying, it was horrific; but I was determined to hold my ground. I knew he was tired and needed a nap so I gave him a milk bottle and I think he even chucked it across the park.

Anyway, finally my husband said, let's just get him the lollipop if it will stop the screaming.After a parent vs. parent argument in the middle of Disneyland, I gave in. He took the lollipop, took 2 licks and fell fast asleep for 2 hours holding the lollipop. It was such a hard moment for me as a mom, I felt l failed.

The funny part about this story is, that we just went back to Disneyland last month and my husband and I laughed so hard about being young parents and trying to be so strong. I laugh now cause we walked past that exact spot in Disneyland and I can still see Eli screaming his head off. I wish I could have told myself, "just buy him the lollipop! Give in this once, he's 3, you're at Disneyland, he's tired and overstimulated and it's not going to make him a bad person. It will make this day much better for you in the end!" I just giggled at myself about how silly I made that moment and how strong I thought I "had" to be.

BirdRock Baby- Sally Gonzalez

You can find the Gonzalez Family on Instagram at @sallypgon.